Choice-Based Anger Control
Over a millennia ago, Aristotle noted that anyone can become angry—that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way—this is not easy. The major reason that anger is so difficult to manage for most people is that it has become a habitual response to certain people, places and situations. Most habits tend to operate below our awareness—meaning we react without considering our choices. The goal of our Choice-Based Anger Control program is to assist you in increasing awareness of your menu of response options available to you to manage your anger and to take greater responsibility and accountability for your anger.
Choice Based Anger Control is based on the simple assumption that anger is a choice—and we choose our response to any person or situation. We subscribe to the idea that Choices Made Repetitiously Become Habits. This means that you have made the same choices over and over until your behavior is automatic or habitual. The operative word is "choice." Webster’s Dictionary defines "choice" as the act of selecting; the power of choosing or that we have options. In essence, whenever you become angry, you have a menu of options available to you about how you manage and cope with your anger. You can choose to be explosive or calm. The Power of Choice is always yours. Choice is the ultimate freedom.
Choice-based Anger Control is designed to empower you to take control of your life by developing strategies and techniques to calm the anger within. Choice-based Anger Control is based on a simple philosophy: “Our lives are the sum total of our choices and actions.” As human beings, our total existence is determined by the daily choices we make—in essence we choose our way through life. We are responsible for choosing the direction, meaning, and purpose for our lives. Choice-based Anger Control’s premise is that a transformed mind leads to a transformed life. In essence, anger control is about transforming our lives by our choices and actions and developing the skills for making quality choices that lead to positive personal growth and development.
We have angermanagement programs for teens, adults and the workplace.
Choice-Based Anger Control for Adults
Component 1: Assessment
Component 2: Understanding the Anger Habit
- The anger habit is automatic
- The anger habit feels normal
- The anger habit is compulsive
- Tracking anger is the brain and body
- Steps two for changing old habits and mental programming
Component 3: My anger hot-spots
- 5 Interrelated phases of an anger episode
- Triggers and Hot-Buttons
- Time-out vs. walking out
Component 4: Anger and Self-Talk
- Understanding Self-Talk and the various forms of Self-Talk
- The power of self-talk to be constructive and destructive—it’s your choice
- How beliefs drive action
- Principles of Mental for gaining control of your self-talk
- Stopping distorted thinking
Component 5: Communication Styles
- What is your anger costing you?
Component 6: Assessing Your Anger Style
- Express (positive or negative)
- Writing a good-bye letter to Anger
- Identifying primary and secondary feelings
- Feelings under anger
Component 7: Where did I get my anger?
- Family of origin questionnaire
- How our anger affects other people
- How does your anger affect you
- Becoming aware of your beliefs about anger
- Anger defense mechanisms
Component 8: Anger is a Choice
What choices do I have in dealing with anger?
Component 9: Stress Management and Anger
- Definitions of stress
- How stress can trigger anger
- Identifying stress symptoms
- Stress reduction and management strategies
Component 10: Learning to Take Care of Your Anger