Seeking help when your child is struggling can be hard for a parent. Some parents immediately jump to the conclusion that they have not been a good enough parent, or have not done a good job in developing a relationship with their child. This is far from the truth! Admitting that your child could benefit from some outside intervention is being a good parent. There are lots of times that kids can need help that is outside our parental range of expertise. Seeking assistance with therapy when your child is hurting is the equivalent of seeking a doctor when they are ill. You would not hesitate is getting your child glasses if he could not see well, would you? Well, getting therapy when it's needed is along these same lines. A good parent finds people to help their child when needed!
There are warning signs that can signal us that a child could be struggling:
  • Separation Anxiety                                
  • Excessive shyness
  • Behavior Regression                             
  •  Low self esteem
  • Learning or other school problems          
  • Mood swings
  • Preoccupation with sexual behavior        
  • Poor relationship with parents (avoidance)
  • Difficulty adjusting to family changes      
  • Recurrent nightmares
  • Defiance / Challenging adult authority     
  • Excessive anger, worry, sadness or fear
  • Physical symptoms such as headaches or         
  • Poor performance in school / grades dropping
  • Stomachaches that have no medical causes
  • In addition to these warning signs, there are some life events which are particularly challenging to children and it does not matter what age they are. These events would include: divorce, death of a loved one, physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, or tragic events such as natural disasters or violence against someone they know.
  • Because these events are all traumatizing, professional intervention needs to be seriously considered. Traumatic events can have devastating effects on the mental well-being of individuals of all ages. If not treated, trauma an cause lifelong effects and problems.